Just so you know.... what I´m about to say is really not profound, nor is it written poetically. It´s just some advice you can take or leave to ensure healthy friendships.
Let´s do the "don´ts" first shall we..to get them out of the way.
1) Don´t hang around with weird people - they´re weird.
2) Don´t spend time with confusing or overly complicated people - you´ll most likely not get to the bottom of what they´re really talking about at any time soon.
3) Avoid demanding types - they´re mostly interested in what you can do for them and may walk all over you.
4) Don´t befriend people who talk about themselves at every turn. It´s a habit that doesn´t seem to break easily.
5) Be wary of people who advertise their skills as friends or who just plain advertise their personalities. In my experience, these people often think they have these gift or wish they did, but in reality....they don´t. (Remember, if they feel the need to list their qualities, they usually don´t posses them).
6) People who don´t express gratitude are often people who will take you completely for granted. Avoid them like you would an angry bull.
Do:
1) Search out people who are givers as well as receivers.
2) Ask yourself if your friendships are balanced.
3) Pick people who are real, honest, generous and sensitive - these are life giving qualities.
4) Be a giver - and make sure your friends are givers too. I cannot stress this enough.
“A friend is someone who helps you up when you’re down,
and if they can’t, they lay down beside you and listen.”
